Drinking after a breakup is a popular coping mechanism—despite the fact that it isn’t exactly healthy. On the one hand, getting buzzed can make you feel better in the moment. But on the other hand, are those temporary feelings of relief worth it? And why is the urge to drink after a breakup so common?
Below, we’ll cover everything you need to know about drinking after breakups, potential downsides to be aware of, and healthy alternatives to help you heal.
Whenever someone goes through a breakup, it’s natural for them to want to ease their pain. For some, this means spending time with family, going on a hike, or venting endlessly to friends. But for many others, it means one, two, or eight mixed drinks and a few weeks of partying.
Here are a few reasons why drinking is so common after a breakup:
If a person has a healthy relationship with alcohol, moderate drinking can fit into a well-rounded lifestyle.
However, if you have the urge to binge drink or drink frequently after a breakup, it may be time to take a step back and check in with yourself. Even though grief, rejection, and jealousy are extremely challenging emotions, remember that alcohol won’t cure your pain in the long run.
Still, drinking after a breakup can be okay when done moderately and with a level head. If having a couple of beers gets you out of the house with your friends once a week, it may even be somewhat constructive.
The problem occurs when alcohol becomes your way of coping with or blocking out emotions. In short, you shouldn’t feel like reaching for a drink every time a painful feeling comes up. And if you do feel that way, it might be best to lay off the booze for a while. As tough as it can be, avoiding alcohol may set you on the path to feeling better for the long haul.
Healing from a broken heart takes time, and it’s best to expect some rough patches along the way. Fortunately, healthy coping mechanisms can make this process go a little more smoothly.
We know that the best way to heal is time. But for now, here are some positive, alcohol-free ways to cope after a breakup.
At the very least, drinking because of a broken heart can lead to regrettable decisions during a night out (we’ve all been there). But over the long term there are greater risks: using alcohol to cope with your emotions can become a habit that’s difficult to break.
Struggling with alcohol use can delay your healing process even longer and put more stress on your plate. And the last thing you want to do is allow a breakup to put you on a path that’s dangerous for your health.
If you feel like your drinking has gotten out of hand after a breakup, you’re certainly not alone. Try some of these tips for cutting back or quitting alcohol, and if it’s hard to reduce your drinking on your own, know that there is help available. Telehealth programs like Ria Health don’t require you to identify as an alcoholic or disrupt your life to get support.
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